A couple of friends have introduced me to this concept before. Liking someone and happily not expecting any feelings to be returned. I was like, "Huh???"
I didn't get it. I couldn't get it. I was like what the fuck?
T once told me, sometimes it's nice to like someone. It's just a nice feeling. To like someone, then you keep it. You'll be happy everytime you see him and get the chance to talk to him. She said all this with the most adorable smile on her face. But then again, T has always been quite endearing. *smiles*
N pretty much has the same opinion as well. Hers goes along the line of, if you like someone, it doesn't mean he has to like you back. Just enjoy the feeling of it.
I was like, enjoy the feeling??? I HATE the feeling. What part of it is nice??? Tell me! *imagine that sentence said with the most incredulous expression on my face*
I really couldn't get it.
But I think... That now I know. Now I do.
It's a bit different, but similar too.
Basically the case is, I gave up on the guy. I just gave up on it. So I am now basically just enjoying admiring him. Oh yes, I do like him. But with no hope whatsoever, even if there is it is so minimal as to be negligible, I am now just enjoying the admiration of him. Giggling about him. Talking about him. The feeling excited just to see him. Etc.
You know how when you talk to your girlfriends and they either have bfs or people they're crushing on?
One goes, "Oh my God! Guess what my baby did for me!" *squeals with excitement and happiness*
Sidenote: For some reason or other, ALL of my friends call their sweethearts "baby". I even got so tired of hearing the word everywhere I once suggested to my friends who're together, "Why baby? Why not you guys call each other something different? Like sugar, or honey, or anything! Other than baby. It's like everybody's going biii here, biiii there. Come on people, some variety! Please!"
Ok, so one goes, "Oh my God! Guess what my baby did for me!" *squeals with excitement and happiness*
Another one also goes, "Holy shit the guy is SO cute!!! Ohmygod I like him so much. I just melt..." *lets out a squeal of excitement*
Yet another one goes, "I know what you mean!!! This guy that I like, he is SO hot! I am so in love..." *blissed out smile*
As a single girl who is not interested in anyone at the moment, you can just go, "Oooh hahaha!" or, "Yeah! Hahahaha!" You really have nothing much to say, because you don't have your own story to share.
But if you are interested in somebody, then suddenly you have this guy to giggle over as well with the rest of the girls. It just makes things more fun.
Because now, you can go, "OMG!!! Yes! I know! My guy is SO cute too! *happy sigh* I like him." *smiles*
Then the giggling and chatting goes on.
Something like that.
That's once of the benefits. Then the others are just you know, feeling happy to see him, to talk to him, feeling excited about the prospect of meeting him, the nice feeling when he smiles at you or laughs with you, etc. To have all that, without the friggin' emo-ness that comes with most of my crushes would be a good feeling in a way, I guess.
But then I wonder. Is it only that way because you don't like the person enough? Could it be that the crushes where you can still feel that way without getting all emo over it are just not the ones that're really strong?
Because it's just illogical in a sense. How can you fall for someone crazy intensely and still be perfectly happy and content that he or she doesn't even look your way? Doesn't seem to fit.
I am feeling the fun-ness of it all now just because mainly, I have given up on the whole thing. So it's like I don't care so much anymore.
And you know what people say about giggly girl crushes. They're never serious.
The serious ones won't be that giggly anymore I bet.
So maybe those crushes my friends had were just minor ones. Minor enough that they could enjoy the feeling without investing too much emotion and care into the whole thing to make them feel the emo-ness.
Interesting.
I should probably stop talking about love and related subjects now. I get the feeling I've been posting too much about the stuff lately. But what can you do! You can't deny. There's just so much about it and to it. It's such a fascinating subject! *earnest wide-eyed look*
There's just a lot to talk about I guess, where this particular constitution is concerned. :)
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