What's So Great About Being Opinionated Anyway?

Mademoiselle was a bit peeved today.

"I don't know what's the great deal about opinionated people!" *scoffs*

Apparently, Mademoiselle has discovered that opinionated can often be equal to stubborn, annoying people. Those who cannot accept the opinions of others because they're always right.

Riiiight... Well, she kinda has a point I guess.

Usually, opinionated and outspoken people tend to go a little bit too far in that direction and end up as bossy, overbearing, I-know-better-than-you people. Sad case lah wei. Why do they always, always have to overshoot? I haven't met one who doesn't.

"I'm probably one myself, although as one I probably wouldn't admit it," Mademoiselle said nonchalantly.

Ok...

But she's right. Some people make too big a deal out of it. I mean just because I do not trumpet out everything I feel and think and then insist people agree with me doesn't mean I don't have my own opinions. Just because I sit there quietly and not say anything, doesn't mean I don't have my own thoughts on the matter. It's just an issue of whether I choose to announce them or not.

But people jump to conclusions too easily. They think if you don't speak up about it, you don't have an opinion. And if you tend to agree with what others say or just go with it because you don't mind, they start thinking you have no stand and can be bent to whomsoever's will. They think you're a follower. Take orders, ask no questions. *slaps forehead*

So then what the hell am I supposed to do? Just dispute everything everyone else says eventhough I agree just so that I can "have my own opinion"? That's just stupid. Just to prove that I have my own mind? It's plain ridiculous. And goes somewhere along the lines of trying too hard as well.

And you know sometimes you contradict yourself and then people look at you like, "This girl's just trying to fit in by agreeing with everything everyone else say." Ok, ok please ah, hat doesn't mean you're a flake with no firm stand. You know how with a proverb, there is almost always another proverb countering it. Same story. It depends on the situation.

So now what? If you're not vocal on the borderline of being too vocal, then people just discount you for a weak-minded bimbo with no opinions of her own. But I don't wanna be one of those too overzealous, opinionated people as well. So yeah, sometimes you just feel that this whole "opinionated" thing is just plain overrated. It does not mean you're definitely smart. People can be vocal and be idiots as well. God knows I've met a few of them.

People should just learn not to jump to conclusions so quickly. There is no shortcut when it comes to understanding people. No matter who it is, no matter how well you think you know them.